Pathology of Pee-Shyness?
I'm a 27-year-old male, and have suffered from being pee-shy since my late teens. Specifically, I cannot urinate in public restrooms while anyone else is present. What can be done?
You may be surprised to learn that it's common for men to have trouble urinating when others are present. I guess the original designer of assembly-line urinals didn't know that. And maybe it's the real reason that men's lines for the restroom at ballparks and movie theaters are so much shorter than women's.
In fact, trouble urinating in public is so common there's even a technical name for it: paruresis. I found two medical journal reports on attempts to treat the problem with beta blockers (which are useful for managing stage fright); in both studies the drugs failed to help.
I don't know of any herbs that would do the trick. But I would recommend hypnotherapy, to help you relax and imagine yourself urinating in front of other people. This will allow you to explore areas of potential within yourself that your conscious mind may now be blocking. Essentially, you will learn how to be more relaxed and open. Work only with a therapist with whom you're comfortable and keep in mind that you must commit to regular practice on your own.
Another approach would be to gradually weaken your fears by building up experience in nonthreatening situations. You may want to find a friend that you can try this with. For example, maybe you feel fine using a bathroom when there's just a close friend present. Then you could try a more public environment in the company of your friend. Over time, you will be able to overcome your anxiety. Good luck. And relax.